Tuesday, February 1, 2011

Let's Take off our Grief Masks

I haven't known what to blog about these days. I don't always want my life to sound so sad and depressing but I do feel the need to blog.

I've come to find that everyone is there right when you lose  someone, they gather around you and comfort you the best they can.

However, when months have passed they seem to disappear or just stop acknowledging the loss. It could be they don't want to bring it up because let's face it no one grieves the same. And really your world is the one that came crashing down that day and will never be the same. Their world,well their world, has been left pretty much untouched.

Speaking for myself, it almost makes me want to hide my grief. At times I feel ashamed, ashamed I haven't gotten through this process sooner.
When I see others who have lost a part of themselves and seem to be doing great it makes me feel incompetent. I think grieving would be easier if we just all took off our "masks" and let each other see what's under there. I know we would all learn a lot.

So for now, part of my blog will be about the real journey I am taking. It's not going to be depressing or wow is me posts. Just real honesty straight from my heart.

Who knows maybe someone will come by and think to themselves "Wow, I'm going through the same thing and it's just a normal part of grief."

"Healing is impossible loneliness;it is the opposite of loneliness. Conviviality is healing. To be healed we must come with all the other creatures to the feast of Creation."
                                                                                               Wendell Berry


5 comments:

nancygrayce said...

Kee, when my dad died suddenly almost 15 years ago, I felt that same way. "How can the world go on as if nothing has happened, when my world has been changed forever?"

Grieving is a very strange thing. I will say that people don't say anything because they don't want to upset you.

I pray you grieve the way you need to!

KEE said...

Thank you and thank you for always being so supportive on here. It always makes me smile to see a comment from you.

Laura said...

Grief is something that is indvidual..and go at it at your own pace..May the LORD heal your heart...

Love ya!

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me said...

The great thing about these blogs is that we *can* be honest, at least more candid than in everyday life. Thanks for being honest.